St. Paul said: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church…. This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ and the Church” (Eph 5:25, 32).

The marriage covenant, by which a man and a woman form with each other an intimate communion of life and love, has been founded and endowed with its own special laws by the Creator. By its very nature it is ordered to the good of the couple, as well as to the generation and education of children. Christ the Lord raised marriage between the baptized to the dignity of a sacrament. The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life.

CCC 1659-1661

 

Important Guidelines

Who are required to have their weddings in a Catholic church? All Catholics must have their marriages celebrated in a Catholic church. This means that at the point of marriage, if one party is a Catholic, he or she must have the marriage celebrated in a Catholic church to fulfill the requirement of Canon Law.

If a couple, either both Catholics, or a Catholic and a non-Catholic, procure a civil marriage or have their wedding celebrated in a non-Catholic church, their marriage is considered invalid due to lack of canonical form.

Where the union is invalid or irregular, as in the case of lack of canonical form, the Catholic party must refrain from receiving Holy Communion until his or her marriage is convalidated.

This does not apply in the case of a non-Catholic couple who are married civilly and then later, one of both of them, are baptised or received into the Catholic Church.

OVERVIEW

  1. Contact the Parish Office
    • Attend a Pre-Marriage Course: Pre-Marriage and Convalidation Courses 2019
      • At St Joseph’s Parish, the five-day pre-marriage courses in English, BM and Chinese are scheduled simultaneously for:
        • 5-6, 12-13 Oct, & 19 Nov 2019
    • Check availability of your requested date
  2. Report to Jabatan Pendaftaran Negara (JPN) Office
  3. Fix an Interview (Pre-Nuptial Inquiry) with a Priest of the Parish
    • Come for Pre-Nuptial Inquiry during office hours
    • Submit relevant JPN and Church documents
    • Confirm Date and Time of Wedding
  4. Prepare yourselves spiritually
    • Pray and go to Mass together
    • Confession
  5. Come for a Wedding Rehearsal
  6. Be at the church on time for your wedding

AN IMPORTANT NOTE for you & your fiancé / fiancée

  • Attend a Pre-Marriage Course preferably SIX months before your planned wedding day. The Pre-Marriage Course Certificate is valid for TWO years only.
  • Call the Church Parish Office to check whether the venue and date of your intended marriage is available, preferably SIX months in advance.
  • Do not print your invitation cards or fix your wedding day before consulting the Parish and clearing all Government and Church requirements.
  • All documents should be in order ONE month prior to your confirmed wedding date. Incomplete documents may result in cancellation of your wedding booking.

 

CIVIL MARRIAGE AT JPN FOLLOWED BY BLESSING IN CHURCH

The Civil Marriage Certificate (‘DAFTAR PERKAHWINAN’ JPN.KC05), is to be issued by JPN, and blessing of the Marriage is to take place at a later time in Church.

  • Go to ‘Bahagian Perkahwinan dan Penceraian’ of the JPN Office, obtain JPN.KC02 Form and do the necessary to comply with JPN requirement.
  • To register your civil marriage before the Magistrate, please bring the following documents for both of you:
    • The original copy of your Identity Card and Birth Certificate
    • A photocopy of your Identity Card and Birth Certificate
    • A recent passport-sized photograph
    • If you are from another country, you may need to bring along a legal certificate (i.e. Statutory Oath from your country’s Embassy/ Consulate) stating you are free to marry.
  • Once JPN has issued your Marriage Certificate (‘DAFTAR PERKAHWINAN’ JPN.KC05), proceed to fix an interview appointment with the Parish Office for both of you to meet the priest for a Pre-Nuptial Inquiry (2-6 months before your planned wedding day).
  • For Pre-Nuptial Inquiry, please bring the following documents for both of you:
    • The original and a photocopy of your ‘DAFTAR PERKAHWINAN’ JPN.KC05/KC07
    • A recent passport-sized photograph
    • A photocopy of your Identity Card (both sides)
    • A photocopy of the Identity Card of both parents
    • A photocopy of your Birth Certificate
    • A photocopy of the Identity Cards (both sides) of two witnesses (male & female), both Catholics, at least 21 years of age and not immediate family members. [Note: We recommend that you find a Catholic couple, who can journey with you in your married life, to be your witnesses]
    • A photocopy/copy of each of the witnesses’ baptismal certificates.
    • The original extract of your Baptism Certificate from the parish of Baptism – issued within the last SIX months and with the status “FREE TO MARRY” signed by the priest of that parish.
    • A photocopy of your Confirmation Certificate.
    • A photocopy of both your Pre-Marriage Course Certificates.
    • The original Statutory Declaration from the Commanding Officer where one party to the marriage is an Army or Police Personnel who is still in active service
    • The original Statutory Declaration by the Commissioner of Oath (e.g. in cases where “status” or “religion” is inaccurate based on JPN record).
    • Divorce Petition & Certificate of Making Decree Nisi Absolute (if any party involved is a Divorcee).
  • During your wedding service in the Church, a Family Record Book will be issued by the presiding priest.

Important Notes

  1. DAYS / DATES TO AVOID (for your wedding) – All Sundays, Ash Wednesday, all Fridays during Lent, Holy Week, Easter Monday, Ascension Thursday, Assumption (15th Aug), All Saints’ Day (1st Nov), All Souls’ Day (2nd Nov) and 20th to 25th Dec. During Lent and Advent, it is recommended that weddings be celebrated in a moderate manner to maintain the spirit of the Seasons.
  2. PARENTAL CONSENT (for MINORS) – If you are under 21 years old, your father (or mother, if father is deceased) must go with you to the Registrar’s Office to fill in Borang JPN.KC01B to endorse the parental consent of your marriage. For girls above 16 but below 18 years of age, permission is required from the Chief Minister through Borang JPN.KC01D.
  3. MARRIAGE BANN (Notice of Marriage on Church Notice Board) – Your marriage bann will be displayed at the Church’s notice board for a period of 1 month before your actual wedding day.

GENERAL DOs & DON’Ts IN THE CHURCH

Approach the Parish Office to make arrangement for:

  • Date and Time for wedding rehearsal.
  • Be punctual as this is done with other couples.
  • Liturgical assistance e.g. Choir, Reader, Commentator, etc.
  • Flowers and Decoration.
  • Booking of the BSC Centre Hall for refreshment / lunch reception.

Marriage Booklets

  • The Church provides sufficient copies of Rite of Marriage booklets for the common use. These booklets are NOT to be removed from the Church.
  • In the event that you would like to print your own Wedding Booklet, please contact the Parish Office for a soft copy. Email your draft copy to us at <blessedsacramentkuching@gmail.com> Please send a hard copy to the presiding priest for vetting and approval, preferably ONE month before your planned wedding day.

Bridal Gown and Dress Code in the Church

  • Bridal gown should ideally cover shoulders fully and should not be too revealing (e.g. low cut or bare back). If so, a shawl is highly recommended.
  • This is also applicable for bridesmaid(s), witnesses, reader(s), commentator, etc. Dressing should be appropriate and decent.

Basic Guidelines in the Church

  • No digital projection is permitted using the Church’s in-house facility.
  • No confetti / flower petals are permitted inside and outside the Church.

For Florist

  • Ensure that your appointed florist observe the following when decorating the Church.
  • Respect the sacredness of the Sanctuary – the raised floor around the Altar.
  • Do not use adhesive tape, staples, thumbtack or pins on the wooden pews. Instead, ribbons and flowers on stands are recommended.
  • Do not place flowers or any form of decorative item on the Altar.
  • Do not use helium balloons in the Church.

For Photographers or Video Cameramen

  • Please remind your appointed photographers to observe the sacredness of the sanctuary.
  • At all times, do not step onto the Sanctuary – the raised floor around the Altar.
  • Use a telephoto lens instead.
  • Normal lens for shooting from front of the Sanctuary at the exchange of rings.
  • Normal lens for shooting at signing of the documents at the side table.

On your Wedding Day

  • Be punctual for your wedding service
  • Request that your non-Catholic guests attending the wedding service respect the sacredness of the Sanctuary / Church and to switch off all hand phones.
  • Your appointed Commentator may need to remind the Congregation at your wedding Mass that Holy Communion are strictly for Catholics only.
  • After your wedding, you may take photos at the entrance of the Church. Please be mindful of your time as there may be another wedding service following yours.

Love Offerings and Tokens of Appreciation

  • Blessed Sacrament Church has DONE AWAY WITH the practice of requiring a fee for marriages. We DO NOT charge for weddings.
  • Nevertheless we encourage love offerings from the couple to the parish in grattitude to God and in support of the parish mission.
  • When you come to make wedding arragements at our parish office, we will furnish you GUIDELINES for the love offerings and tokens of appreciation indicating how these will be used. We will also suggest amounts because many people are unsure about what are appropriate.
  • Offerings and tokens are, strictly speaking, optional. In Blessed Sacrament Parish, no one will be denied a wedding due to financial constraints.